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I’ll second, third and fourth doing a beauty day. I was going to write something about that in my original post. I don’t know what it is about having a girly day and getting a haircut or color or...
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@findingtheearth I was totally the person in college that rolled out in sweatpants and then was surprised when i never got dates. And my college roomates are the ones that taught me how to use makeup,...
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@findingtheearth, I’ll be glad to help if I can. I did the same 2 years ago after getting out of a long relationship that messed up my head. I read a million things on the topic, as well as...
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I agree on the clothes issue- growing up my mom never really taught me anything about makeup, appearance, etc. A friend of mine in college took me shopping and taught me some of the basics and told...
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Agree! And it’s not vanity, I don’t think. To me, part of it is if you’re doing those things for yourself, then you’re treating yourself as though you matter, you’re worth it. And I think it sends...
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@Kate @Copa, I totally agree! One of the things I did after the breakup was go out and buy a few new outfits and pairs of jeans (for retail therapy, and also to have some clothes that looked good on...
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I agree about “putting yourself together” in a certain way. A great haircut can do wonders for your appearance. I also think everyone should have at least one pair of “nice jeans” that you can dress...
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Well, then, yeah, really it just comes down to making the most of your unique appearance; acting like you think a woman with self-confidence and high self-worth would act, and when you feel...
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That’s what I’m working on, just loving me for me, not based on some standard of beauty. I just wanted to work on my self confidence, that was the purpose of reaching out for advice.
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WFS, absolutely. you are you. find a way to love yourself/your body/your face/ect for just being YOU, not because you look the most like the doctored pictures on magazines. the market-manufactured...
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Yeah Fabelle, that’s what I was trying to say. People need to let go of this marketing-manufactured false need to feel beautiful. It’s just not necessary. And sorry, Veritek, didn’t mean to imply...
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It may help to realize that your ex probably didn’t break up because you weren’t beautiful. He was telling you that you are beautiful because you are and broke up over other issues. If he didn’t like...
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Yeah, WKS about this: “the guys who message you online and tell you you’re gorgeous, sexy, beautiful, etc., are not the guys you want to go out with” I totally agree^ so the first thing I’ll tell you...
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@Kate, with all due respect, and I see where you’re coming from, but being beautiful (or having people think I’m beautiful) is not my most pressing issue. It’s just one element of it all, and the one...
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To echo what others have said, congrats on the weight loss, and don’t underestimate the power of “fake it til you make it.” I apply that principle all the time. Also, another great antidote to...
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@landygirl I’m in counseling. I’ve been going since January. Trust me, I’m working on myself, and I’m in a far, far better place than I was three months ago. @liquidluck My counselor actually...
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I think some (probably not all) self-esteem issues can be fixed with a “fake it ’til ya make it” approach. For online dating, I’d also recommend ignoring the “hey sexy” emails. In person, I think it...
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I’m with gatecrashergirl. Ignore the “hey sexy!” emails. Hold off until you can tell someone legit wants to get to know you and it’s obvious they read your profile. I’m in a location where there...
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This may not work for everyone (and it isn’t a quick fix), but I literally talked my way into having self-confidence. I just told myself everyday that I was awesome and acted like I was, and...
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Oh and yeah, if anyone ever hit on me by saying, “you’re so sexy” I would puke. That is the opposite of how I would like to be approached.
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